How to Pull Yourself Out of a Funk

If you follow me on Instagram, you know that recently I’ve been in a bit of a mood. Truthfully, this funk persisted throughout the second half of January and it was only very recently that I was able to pull myself out of it. Funks happen to all of us, and those of us prone to cynicism are even more vulnerable it seems. The world is insane and the news confirms our greatest fears on a daily basis. If you manage to travel this crazy place without slightly bruising your optimism, I salute you. For the rest of us, I’ve

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Keys to a Happier 2018

I listen to a lot of podcasts and lately I’ve noticed a trend. More and more they are talking about happiness: how to find it, how to keep it, why it escapes us. Strangely I realized I hadn’t given happiness much thought lately; apart from knowing when I am unhappy, I tend to just live. I think that means I must be mostly happy, but clearly so many of us aren’t. While I’m not an actual happiness expert (Y’all. This is a real thing!), I am an expert in having been very unhappy, miserable even, and turning things around. Keys to a

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A Year of Better

I’ve told you (repeatedly) that 2017 has been a year of change and transformation for me, but what I haven’t mentioned is that in the moment I didn’t realize it. Obviously, I recognized that things had to change, and I was certainly making efforts to do just that.  I didn’t realize the extent to which that change was happening. All of the revelations I uncovered happened only (or at least mostly) in hindsight. In the moment, I didn’t realize I was becoming better. It occurs to me that perhaps that’s how it always is. Maybe when you’re in the moment, doing the

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Life is in the Little Things

it’s the little things Several months ago my friend Katie blogged about the things that make her happy. She wasn’t talking about those generic answers we give: family, friends, etc. She meant those little things that bring us joy that we often forget about in the hustle and bustle of living. If I’ve learned anything from my experiences with loss and depression, it’s that life is in the little things! Traveling this planet isn’t easy. Every day brings us millions of (valid) reasons to throw our hands up and declare that all hope is lost. That’s where these small pleasures

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Dealing with Holiday Depression

Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year, right? Everyone basks in the joy of the season. Everyone feels warm and fuzzy. We’re all a little nicer to one another (except on Black Friday), and it’s generally a happy time. Only for some of us, it simply isn’t. According to Google holiday depression is a legitimate malady, which frankly, is a relief. It’s nice to know that enough people deal with this that it has an official name. not so happy holidays My older brother passed away when I was fourteen, and that’s the first time I remember Christmas being

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Resolutions that Last: Setting Goals

As I said in my initial post, this year has seen me become what feels like a completely different person than I was when it began. I  understand wanting to make changes within your own life and having no idea where to start. What’s worse is getting started, making great changes, and then falling back into old habits. I am here to help, because after so many years of starting and stopping and rinsing and repeating, I’ve found a formula for lasting changes that works for me and if it works for me, it can work for literally anyone. Define why

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Confronting My Flaws

So that’s it, right? I hit rock bottom, decided I needed to change and did. What could be easier? If only! Were such an undertaking so simple, I doubt I’d have ended up here in the first place.   To be sure, there are plenty of my flaws I’ve no problem acknowledging: I’m a know-it-all, I’m stubborn, I can have a bit of a temper. The other flaws, though. Those are a different story.  These are the flaws we all have, the ones we see as potentially fatal. If you are anything like me you have taken great care to suppress these flaws, to

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The Catalyst

It’s worth noting that this pregnancy was different from the beginning. I didn’t feel as good as I had with my first son: no energy, ever-present nausea, and a general feeling of “I’m not myself.” Most unsettling was that I didn’t feel the instant (in-utero) connection with this baby that I felt with his brother; it was as if I had no attachment to the child I was growing. He was there, I was his vessel, and that was the extent of it. It was alarming to say the least. I was terrified that this would continue, that my baby would arrive and

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